(Assuming uncle is your blood relative.)
What you are presently going through is most probably be a case of PTSD as a result of Incest.
Incest is sexual intercourse between two persons commonly regarded as too closely related to marry.
It could be anyone extends to respected elders such as relatives, family friends, neighbors, doctors, teachers or clergy.
Incest
includes suggestive or seductive ways of speaking, looking or
commenting directed at a child or their body; fondling; invasive
kissing, wrestling or tickling; pressuring or tricking a child into
sexual awareness or activity; non medical enemas; photographing naked
children; exhibitionism; masturbation; oral or anal sex; or intercourse.
Leaving pornography in easy reach, telling dirty jokes in earshot of
children, sexually commenting about others, or hinting at your abundant
or lack of sex life to a child are additional forms of sexual abuse.
The first step in healing from incest is to end the confusion in your lives.
Action Steps
1. Be Patient
Healing
from incest is a process and different people will vary in the amount
of time required for their healing. Don’t put yourself on a time line or
tell yourself you should “be over this by now.”
It takes courage to seek help for healing, to talk about your experience, and to bring what was once in darkness into the light.
2. Grieve your loss
Much has been taken from you. Let yourself feel the necessary pain and grieve the loss you have experienced.
3. Regain Control
Being believed and being able to say what happened are important first steps.
You have permission to stand strong, and to be empowered over the one who has exerted power over you.
4. Find support
Attending a group for survivors of incest can be a healing next step.
5. Establish Boundaries
For
adult survivors of incest, it is time to learn how to practice
self-care. One important step is to establish healthy boundaries. Be
sure trusted people are aware of your personal boundaries.
Some people may want to confront their abuser. Others will not, or will be unable to do so.
6. Know that you will heal
You do have a bright future. You’re not a victim, but a survivor.
You may have lost a lot, but you are not “ruined” for the future. Healing is possible.
7. Find more intense guidance
You
may need some professional guidance in order to truly deal with the
depth of pain that incest has caused. It is not wrong to seek out
professional help.
Check this site Survivors of Incest Anonymous
(The answer may not be the best. Work on it. GOOgle ‘Incest recovery’)
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