My child is touching other children's private parts. What should I do?

Most people already are aware of the risk of sexual abuse that some adults present to our children. Unfortunately, very few adults recognize that children and adolescents also can present a risk to other children.

This can be a difficult issue to address, partly because it is often challenging for adults to think of the children or adolescents we know as capable of sexually abusing others.

The child is a victim as well as the offender. He should not feel that he is been abandoned for his deeds.

Many will come to the abrupt conclusion that the child is sexually abused and hence he became the abuser(abused become the abuser). This may be the reason, but we can not take it for granted.

Most of these children are not born bad or evil, they have been born into horrific circumstances.

Children as young as 4 or 5 may unknowingly engage in sexually harmful behavior, although more often those who sexually harm children are adolescents.

To create a solution we need to understand the reason first.

Check for all possible reasons . Talk to him but don’t force him or accuse him.

Why the child is a abuser?

Probable Reasons

• In many cases they copy what adults around them are doing.
• Movies, TV programs with intimate scenes.
• Internet and pornography.(so experimenting)
• They may also be seeking control in response to the cruelty and loneliness of their own lives, while spoiling the life of a "luckier or happier" child.
• Many a times, one or both children do not understand that the behavior is harmful.
• It may be due to incest.
• Born into families in which abuse, violence and neglect has become routine over several generations.
• Some of them have been emotionally, sexually or physically abused.
• A child who has witnessed physical or emotional violence at home.
• Sexually harmful behavior by children and young people may range from experimentation that has gone too far to serious sexual assault.

SOLUTION

The solution is to consult a reputed mental health professional and evaluate him. He will help you solve the issue. On your part provide the details and don’t hide anything from him. Quora will help you in understanding the possible reasons/cause, so provide as much data as possible.

Think from the child’s perspective(be empathetic) don’t be the critical parent and start accusing the child.

(Don’t fall into any assumption and treat the child by yourself using internet/quora answers as it may Do more damage than Good)

Child-on-child sexual abuse